The most pressing question most people have on their mind after a breakup is if your ex still loves you.

The fact that your ex doesn’t want to be with you is painful enough. The rejection is painful enough. But wouldn’t it make it easier to deal with if you somehow knew if they still love you.

After all, if you are reading this article, it means that you probably still love your ex. That what you had with your ex was something real. Something wonderful. Something that you treasured.
But was it the same for your ex? Are they also feeling the pain you are feeling? Does your ex still love you?

Just a little sign from your ex-boyfriend or ex girlfriend, just a small action that shows that they love you can help you feel a lot better about this whole ordeal. Especially if you are having a hard time with the breakup and still want them back.

In this article, I am going to break down exactly how to find out if your ex still loves you. And if they love you, I am going to rate their feelings on scale of 0 to 5 so that you can have an idea of how much they love you.

And I am going to cover as many situations here as possible. It doesn’t matter if you have just broken up, or if you have been broken up for a while. It doesn’t matter if you have started no contact or not. I will also be covering signs that mean your ex doesn’t love you anymore.

But before we get into that, let’s talk a little about what you. About what you want and the state of your mind.

Why Do You Need to Know?

mirror mirror on the wall, does my ex love me at all
The very fact that you are reading this article probably means that you want your ex back. I understand that you really loved your ex and you are hoping that if your ex still loves you, then you have a decent chance at reconciliation.

In short, if you are wondering if your ex still loves you, then you are looking for hope.

And that’s okay. Hope is a good thing. In fact, the world is built on hope. Without hope, we would just collapse.

But it’s also important to be realistic here and understand your state of mind. There is a good chance your mind is panicking right now.

A good way to stop your mind from panicking is by having a plan of action. So if you want to get your ex back, then I recommend you read one of my in-depth guides on reconciliation. They are free to read and peruse.

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About This Article

To make this article easy to read, I have included two factors with each sign.

a) Feeling Strength: This means how strong is the action an indicator of the feelings your ex has for you.

A signal strength of five means your ex has strong feelings for you. Perhaps enough to qualify as love. While a feeling strength of 1 means that your ex only likes you.

b) Does this Improve Your Reconciliation Chances? (DIYRC): Just because your ex has strong feelings for you doesn’t mean that they will take you back or that it increases your chances of getting back together. This metric will tell you how this sign affects your chances of reconciliation. Note, it doesn’t tell you your chances of reconciliation. Your chances depend on a lot of factors and I recommend you take this quiz if you are interested in your chances. This metric will only tell you how this particular sign affects your chances. Does it improve your chances or not. The higher this is, more it improves your chances of your ex wanting you back. However, if it’s less, it doesn’t mean your chances of getting your ex back are low. It simply means that this particular sign or action has no effect on reconciliation. If it’s negative, that means this sign reduces your chances of reconciliation.

This article is divided in four sections covering different phases after a breakup. If you read my article on getting your ex boyfriend back or getting your ex girlfriend back, then you will most likely go through these phases with your ex. These phases include,

a) Immediately after a breakup

b) While you are doing no contact

c) If they start dating someone else or get into a rebound

d) After you have finished no contact and are back in touch with your ex

The Signs Your Ex Still Loves You Shortly After a Breakup.

Things are usually a chaos immediately after a breakup. But if you want your ex back, there is one thing that’s constant. Your need to know if your ex still loves you or if they still have feelings for you. In this section, I will cover scenarios you will encounter if your breakup happened recently.

1) Your Ex Calls You a Lot

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does this Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

If you and your ex just broke up, and your ex is calling you a lot, it’s a strong sign that they still have feelings for you and that they love you. But this does not necessarily mean that they want to get back together.

What does it mean when your ex keeps calling you even after the breakup?

It could be that your ex just misses you and cares for your well-being. It could be that they are so used to speaking to you every day, that they don’t know what to do without speaking to you.

The fact that your ex-boyfriend is calling you after the breakup does not really mean much other than what I said above. Yes, they may be thinking about getting back together, but it’s too soon to tell what he is thinking and whether or not you have a good chance of getting back together. There are simply too many factors at play after a breakup.

A lot of people misinterpret this as a great sign that your ex wants you back, but in reality, it is not.

2) Your Ex Gets Angry at You Often

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does this Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 2/5

Here’s the thing that a lot of people don’t understand after a breakup. Anger is not the opposite of love. Indifference is. If your ex is angry at you, there’s a good chance they still have feelings for you. There is a good chance they still love you. If they didn’t, why would they care? In most cases, we only feel angry towards the people we love.

So, what does it mean if your ex is angry at you?

The fact that your ex is angry towards you after a breakup probably means that they expected more of you. That you didn’t live up to what they wanted from you. Perhaps they once saw a great relationship in you. And now that they have broken up with you, they blame you for the pain and emptiness they are feeling right now.

It could also mean that your ex is just an angry person and they never take responsibilities for their feelings.

But in most cases, if your ex is angry at you after a breakup, it means that they have feelings for you and had high expectations from the relationship. Believe it or not, this actually increases your chance of getting them back. You just need to learn how to fix what was broken.

3. They try to make you jealous.

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does this Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 0/5 (It does not affect your chances)

Often times, you will find your ex making some obvious attempts to make you jealous. They may start posting pictures with the opposite sex on social media like Facebook, Snapchat etc. OR they may send their friends to tell you that they are happy without you and are moving on. They may try to show you that they are happier than you.

If your ex is actively trying to make you jealous, it means that they are immature. And it doesn’t mean they want to get back together. It doesn’t really affect your chances of reconciliation.

The fact that they are going through the trouble of doing all those things to make you jealous does mean that they care about you. It also means that they are not taking the breakup well and don’t know how to deal with their feelings. Do not misinterpret this as a sign that they want to get back together.

4. They Contact Your Friends and ask about you

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does this Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 0/5

If your ex is contacting your friends and trying to find out your whereabouts and how you are doing, then there is a good chance he still has feelings for you. It does not necessarily mean he is still madly in love with you. But it does mean that he cares for you and probably still likes you to an extent.

The fact that your friends are involved means that you will get a lot of enthusiastic advice from them. Some maybe overly optimistic, depressingly pessimistic, and even hateful.

“Dude, he really loves you. Why else would he contact us? You should totally ask him to get back together.”
“Girl, he does not know what he lost. Let him go. You should date my cousin Steve.”
“I don’t think he cares about you. Men only care about one thing. My ex did the same thing and then he cheated on me with Gina. That bitch.”

When your ex contacts your friends, you should be very careful because your friends may give you bad advice following that encounter. Your best bet is to not take it as a sign that he wants to get back together. Instead, just use this to remind yourself that your ex still cares about you and keep following the plan.

5. They get their friends to contact you or to tell you something

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does this Improve your Chances of Reconciliation: 0/5

If your ex is trying to get you a message through their friends, then there is a good chance they still have feelings for you. But it does not improve your chances of getting back together.

If you find your ex’s friend tell you things like,

“Oh, he has moved on. He seemed happy to me.”

“You should move on. I don’t think she will ever take you back.”

“He has never been so happy. I really think he is better off without you.”

then there there’s a good chance your ex told their friends to tell you these things. Your ex is just trying to manipulate you and get a reaction out of you. They are trying to win the post breakup competition. And if they are still trying to do that, then they are definitely not over you and still have feelings for you.

6. They block you because you kept contacting them.

Feeling Strength: 0/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: -1/5 (It hurts your chances)

If you have been constantly contacting your ex and your ex blocks you as a result, then this means your ex does not have like you. At least, at the moment.

But, and it’s a big BUT, it does not mean all hope is lost. You see, if you follow the plan, do no contact, and focus on yourself, there is still a chance you can still get your ex back.

It does make reconciliation a bit harder hence the negative score on the Effect on reconciliation Chances.

7. They unblock you for no reason.

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 2/5

On the other hand, if your ex blocks you and then unblocks you within a span of 1-2 weeks, then there is a good chance they have strong feelings for you. Once they blocked you, they couldn’t stand not speaking to you and they just had to unblock you.

If you think this is a sign that your ex wants to get back together, and that you should pounce on this chance. Think again.

If you do that, it will be a HUGE MISTAKE.

If your ex unblocks you after having blocked you for a while, then you should stay quiet and keep following the guidelines in this article. If you start nagging them again and start asking to get back together, they will block you again and they might never unblock you again.

Them unblocking you is a good indicator that they want to keep the lines of communication open. And that means a part of them wants to get back together. So, it’s a good sign they may get back together in the future. But don’t get too excited and make mistakes. Because things can still go very wrong if you make mistakes.

8. They keep blocking and unblocking you for no reason.

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

It makes sense if your ex blocks you because you kept texting them or calling them all the time. It makes sense if they blocked you because you crossed some sort of boundary.

But what if your ex blocks you all of a sudden for no reason.

What does it mean? More importantly, is it a good sign?

You will be glad to know that this is not really a bad sign. In fact, if your ex blocks or unblocks you for no reason at all, it means they are struggling with the breakup. They are most likely blocking you to stop themselves from calling you or to stop looking at your social media profiles.

They are trying to move on from you or they are trying to get some space for themselves. Maybe they are trying to do the no contact rule so they can heal from the breakup. The fact that they are trying so hard means it is hard for them. And that means they have strong feelings for you.

Now, just because they are trying to move on from you does not mean you don’t have a chance of getting back together. Please don’t panic and start making every mistake in the book. Be patient and keep doing your own thing. Give them the space they need. Healing from the breakup is a good thing. For both of you. And you still have a chance at getting them back in the future.

9. They tell you that they miss you.

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 2/5

If your ex tells you they miss you, the first thought in your mind might be,

“Yes, he finally misses me. I knew he will come back. Guess, I have all the power in the world. Now it’s time to tell him to come and hold me in his arm.”

That THOUGHT IS WRONG.

Just because he misses you does not mean that the breakup is over. It simply means that he misses you. He may just miss being in a relationship. He may just miss speaking to someone he cares about. He may just care about your well being and misses knowing how you are doing. He may just miss the sex.

It’s just been a few days after the breakup and him missing you is completely normal right now.

Do not take this to mean he wants you back. Do not talk about getting back together with him just because he misses you. Instead, just listen to him and follow this guide.

Even though it bodes well that he admits to missing you, there is still a long way to go before you are back with him. So be patient.

10. Your ex tells you that they love you.

Feeling Strength: 5/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 3/5

What better sign to know that your ex loves you than your ex telling you straight up that they love you. But it’s not all over yet. If both of you just broke up, then your ex is simply being honest about their feelings. The fact that they love you does not mean they want to get back together. It does not mean they have forgotten why they broke up with you and why they want to stay broken up.

So, if your ex tells you that they love you, don’t jump to conclusions. Especially if your breakup is recent. Just listen to them and see what they have to say. Usually, if they say they love you, they will follow it up with why they can’t be with you. Listen to them and try to understand them. You can use this reason to increase your chances of getting them back later on.

The Signs During No Contact Rule

If you have read my guides on getting your ex boyfriend back or getting your ex girlfriend back, then you would know that I recommend the no contact rule after the breakup. It’s a short period after the breakup where you take some space and time from each other and focus on healing. It has several advantage and if you would like to know more about it, click here.

In this section, we will talk about the things that your ex might do while you are doing no contact and what it means. Does it mean that they still love you or does it mean they want to get back together? Let’s begin.

11. Your ex keeps calling or texting you while you are doing no contact

If your ex does this, how strong feelings do they have for you? 3/5

Does this improve your chances of getting back together? 2/5

Suppose you start doing no contact. You didn’t really tell your ex about it. You just stopped contacting your ex. But then a couple days later, he calls you. He wants to speak. He asks you how you have been doing and what you are doing.

What does it mean if your ex calls you when you start doing no contact?

It just means that your ex is feeling a vacuum once you stopped contacting them. And they probably are confused and maybe even scared of losing you. This is the push/pull dynamics working here. When you pull away, your ex starts pushing.

But it does not mean your ex will want you back. It just means that they probably have strong feelings and that they miss you.

Do not take this as a sign that no contact is working and that you will get your ex back. No contact is meant for you and the only way no contact will work is if you use it to heal and improve. Just because your ex is missing you does not mean the breakup is over. It just means that they are now experiencing the push/pull dynamics of the breakup.

12. Your ex keeps calling you even though you have told them not to.

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

It’s one thing if your ex is calling you when you suddenly stop contacting them. But what if you followed my advice in the guide and told your ex that you need space and time? What if you told them to stop contacting them and they still keep contacting you? What does it mean then?

In this case, it still does not mean your ex will want you back. It does not improve your chances if your ex does not let you do no contact. It just means that your ex is finding it really hard to deal with the vacuum and that they never expected you to stop contacting them.

But it does not necessarily mean they will want to get back together. And even if they do want to get back together, there is a good chance you will both breakup again. This is why this sign has a Reconciliation chance of only 1/5.

If your ex keeps contacting you even after you asked for space, it means they are panicking. And if you both get back together out of panic, you will most likely breakup again because neither one of you had the time to grow and learn from the past.

13. Your ex asks to meetup with you during no contact.

Feeling Strength: 5/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 4/5

Suppose you are doing no contact and all of a sudden your ex contacts you and asks to meetup with you. It happens quite a bit and it may make you wonder what your ex wants.

In my experience, if this happens to you, then there is a strong chance that your ex wants to talk about getting back together or the breakup. They may also have doubts about getting back together and want to speak to you about it.
But you should be prepared before going in. If you make the wrong move, you may lose your ex again.

Worse still, you may get back together and breakup again if you don’t focus on building strong foundations of the relationships.

Remember, no contact is not a trick and just because your ex wants to get back together, it does not mean you will stay happily ever after.

So if you are in this situation, consider speaking to one of our relationship coaches or get our premium program that will prepare you for pretty much any situation your ex puts you in.

14. Your ex becomes overly aggressive on social media while you are doing no contact

Feeling Strength: 1.5/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 0/5

If your ex starts posting too much on social media while you are doing no contact, it does not really mean anything other than that they are feeling a vacuum and they want attention.

Perhaps they are hoping you will read one of their posts, panic and call them. Perhaps they are trying to make you feel guilty or jealous. Whatever it is, it’s immature and you should not pay attention to it.

The fact that they are doing it to get your attention means that they have feelings for you. But it does not affect your chances of reconciliation.

When Your Ex Is Dating Someone Else

What if your ex is in a rebound relationship or they are dating someone else? In this section we will cover signs and hints that you can use to figure out if your ex still loves when they have a new girlfriend or a new boyfriend.

15. Their Rebound Is Awfully Similar to You

Feeling Strength: 2/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

If your ex is dating someone who seems very similar to you, there is a good chance your ex is trying to replace you with someone similar. The very fact that your ex is trying to move on too fast by replacing you with someone who looks like you, acts likes you, dresses like you or even smells like you means that they are not over you and that they still have strong feelings for you.

The good news is that everything in their rebound relationship will remind them of you and it will just make it harder for them to heal and move on from the breakup.(Read more about common patterns in a rebound relationships here.)

If your ex is in such a rebound relationship, it will actually increase your chances of reconciliation because it will end shortly and they will realize that they can’t just replace you with someone else.

16. Their Rebound is Exactly Opposite of you

Feeling Strength: 2/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

The exact opposite also works in your favor. If your ex is dating someone who is a complete opposite of you, then there is a good chance they still have feelings for you.

Why?

If your ex goes out of their way to find someone who is not like you at all, then they are trying too hard to forget about you. They are still trying to replace you, but they want to replace you with someone who is the exact opposite of you so they can forget about you. They want to replace you with someone who is the opposite of you. Perhaps they are trying to convince themselves that they can be happier with someone who is NOT like you. Or perhaps, they just find themselves attracted to the opposite of you because they have a bad taste in their mouth after the breakup.

In any case, these types of rebounds rarely ever work. Your ex is still not over you and even if they are with someone who is a complete opposite of you, they will still remind them of you. And it does help your chances of reconciliation because it will still teach your ex what it’s like to be with someone who is the complete opposite of you and make them miss the good times they had with you.

17. They still contact you regularly

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 2/5

If your ex is in another relationship and they still contact you regularly, then there is a very good chance it’s because they have strong feelings for you and that the new relationship is a rebound.

In a lot of cases, an ex does this because they know that the new relationship is not great and that they are just using it to fill a hole in their life. If your ex is still contacting you, it’s because they hope you will do or say something that will make them want to get back together.

18. They Post Pictures on Social Media with their new partner

Feeling Strength: 2/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances:2/5

If your ex is constantly posting pictures on social media about their new relationship, then it’s most likely done to get a reaction out of you or to make you jealous. This is immature and insensitive to your feelings. So most people who are serious about moving on will not do this. If your ex does this, then all of this is a game to them and they are trying to win it by showing you that they are doing better than you.

In reality though, the very fact that they are doing this means that they are actually miserable inside and are probably in denial. They are trying to convince themselves, their friends and you that they are doing great in their new relationship. But since it’s a rebound, it’s as empty as their heart is without you.

If your ex is doing this, your best course of action is to ignore them and do no contact. Focus on yourself, heal, grow and become a better version of yourself while your ex is playing games and are in denial of their true feelings. By the time their rebound ends, you will already be far ahead of them when it comes to growth and healing and they will be really attracted to the new you who is full of confidence and wisdom.

19. They tell you that they want to make the new relationship work and stop talking to you because of it.

Feeling Strength: 0/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: -1/5

If your ex truly decides that they want to make their new relationship work, it will show in their actions. If they really see potential in their new relationship, then they will want to invest their time and energy into it. They will not let an ex sabotage their new relationship. And they will tell you about it clearly and ask you straight away to stop contacting them.

If your ex does this, then it probably means that they do not love you and are serious about moving on. It definitely reduces your chances of reconciliation. You should respect their decision and let them go. If there is a chance in the future, they will contact you themselves in case the new relationship doesn’t work out.

20. Your Ex breaks up with the new rebound shortly

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 2/5

What better proof of it being a rebound than their new relationship ending shortly after starting? If your ex and the new girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up soon after starting, then it was surely a rebound and that means your ex still has feelings for you.

It definitely increases your chances and you have a decent chance if you have been following the plan till now and you focused on self improvement and growth during no contact. Make the right moves and you will probably have your ex back in your arms soon enough.

21. Your Ex And The Rebound develop an on/off relationship.

Feeling Strength: 1/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: -1/5

If your ex breaks up with their rebound and gets back together with them shortly after, then it doesn’t bode well for you.

The fact that your ex is having trouble in their new relationship means that they have not fully recovered from the breakup and they probably still have feelings for you.

But it doesn’t help your chances of getting back together. In fact, in my experience, this type of relationships usually last too long and it’s because your ex does not want to learn and grow.
If your ex ends up in an on/off relationship with their rebound, then it’s most likely because one or both of them have a toxic relationship pattern and that they don’t want to make an effort to change it.

I know it sucks but if your ex is in an on/off relationship, you should seriously reconsider getting back with them because even though you have grown during the no contact period, your ex decided to just ignore all their issues and find someone who is as toxic as they are.

Signs Your Ex Loves You or They Want You Back After No Contact Rule

Once you are done with no contact rule, you will eventually reach out to your ex. You can do so by following one of my articles on texting or my article on what to do after no contact. Once you reach out, you can gauge your ex’s reaction to figure out how they feel about you and about getting back together by using the signs below.

22. They are excited to hear from you

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

If you contact your ex after a significant period of no contact (2-6 weeks), and your ex is excited to hear from you, then there is a good chance your ex missed you and they wanted to hear from you. This also probably means that they have gotten over the negative aspect of the breakup and remembering the good times.

If this is the case, then your ex definitely has feelings for you. But it does not necessarily mean they have been thinking about getting back together.

23. They are angry when they hear from you

Feeling Strength: 4/5
Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 1/5

Suppose you have done no contact for a while. You have healed from the breakup, calmed down and have grown since. You have learned from the breakup and tried to become a better version of yourself. You follow my plan on getting your ex boyfriend back or getting your ex girlfriend back and reach out to your ex.

Your expecting your ex to be happy to hear from you or at least treat you nicely. But instead, they are angry at you. They are still hurt and hold resentment for the things that happened during the breakup.

What does it mean when your ex is angry at you even after no contact?

angry obi wan

An Angry Ex = An Emotional Ex

This means that whatever happened during the breakup must have really hurt your ex. This also means that you were really important to them. If you weren’t, you won’t be able to hurt them to this extent and they wouldn’t hold on to the anger for so long.

In my opinion, if your ex is still angry after you have done no contact, then they still have strong feelings for you. You just need to give them more space and time before they can learn to forgive you and accept the breakup.

This does not necessarily mean you don’t have a chance with your ex. In fact, you still have a chance with him or her. You just need to be patient and say the right things to help them understand your point of view and get perspective on what happened.

24. They are cold in their response

Feeling Strength: 1/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 0/5

If you contact your ex and they are cold or indifferent in their response, then it means one of the following things.

1. They are over you and they don’t love you anymore. They may still have some feelings for you but your chances of getting them back are very slim.

2. They are very skeptical about you contacting them. They have feelings for you but they don’t want to jump back into a relationship with you and they think you are contacting them to get back together. They don’t want to lead you on, and they decide to just be cold.

3. They are testing you. If you are still needy and desperate, then you will most likely panic at their cold reaction and you will do something stupid.

As you can see, them being cold can mean a lot of things. And it does not necessarily mean you won’t have a chance with your ex in the future. But if your ex is cold, it does not increase your chances of getting back together at all.

25. They are hot and cold

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 3/5

In some cases, your ex will act hot and cold when you reach out to them. Somedays, they will answer all your calls, get into long texting conversations with you, tell you that they miss you. And on other days, they will be cold, ignoring your texts and blowing you off.

If your ex is acting hot and cold, then the most likely explanation for this is that they are confused about the feelings they have with you. Sometimes they feel like they should get back together with you, and sometimes they want to stay broken up.

It could also be that there is a rebound in picture and they are confused between choosing the right relationship for them.

If your ex is acting like this, then you can be pretty sure that your ex still loves you. And they are close to either getting back with you, or breaking it off completely. You can definitely increase your chances if you know how to communicate well and you can show them that you are confident.

26. They share their doubts with you

Feeling Strength: 4/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 4/5

One of the best signs that tell you that your ex is thinking about getting back together is when they share their doubts with you. If your ex is complaining about the things that you did wrong before the breakup or during the breakup, don’t let it dishearten you. If your ex is sharing them with you, then there is a good chance they are trying to convince themselves that things will be different this time.

If your ex does this, it means that they have strong feelings for you and are thinking about getting back together.

27. They want to know about your dating life.

Feeling Strength: 2/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 2/5

If your ex asks you about your dating life or if you have had sex with someone since the breakup, then it’s probably because they still have feelings for you. But it’s not a very strong indicator of their feelings because it could also be because of many other reasons. Reasons like

a) They are just curious
b) They slept with someone else and they will feel less guilty if you also slept with someone else.
c) They are just jealous of someone in particular and want to know if you slept with that person.

In short, this is not a strong indicator of the feelings your ex has for you. If they care enough to ask, it does mean that the thought of getting back together has crossed their mind.

28. They try to friendzone you.

Feeling Strength: 2/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 0/5

At some point after no contact, you may find your ex trying to friendzone. They may start talking about their dating life or they may start encouraging you to date and give you advice on dating.

If your ex is trying to do this, then there is a good chance they are forcing a friendship. It’s almost as if they really want you in their life but they also want to date other people.

If your ex is doing this, then there is a good chance they have some feelings for you. But they are not enough to qualify as romantic love. And if they are trying to force a friendship with you, it doesn’t increase your chances of getting back together at all.

29. After no contact, they calmly tell you that they don’t want to stay in contact with you.

Feeling Strength: 0/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: -4/5

If you contact your ex after having done no contact for significant amount of time. And your ex straight up tells you that they don’t want to have contact with you and they want to completely move on, then this definitely means that they don’t love you anymore and want to move on.

You should take their word for it and give up hope. If they are saying this while they are calm and composed, then they are serious about their decision and there is nothing much you can do at this point.

30. They talk of a future with you.

Feeling Strength: 5/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 4/5

If your ex speaks of a future where you are both back together, then they most likely have strong feelings for you and they are actively thinking about getting back together and rebuilding a relationship with you.

The very fact that your ex is imagining a life with you is a very strong indicator of their feelings. But it does not necessarily mean you will get back together. You still need to make the right move and build strong foundations to the new relationship.

You need to tread carefully and take things slow if you both end up back together. If you don’t, you wil most likely repeat the same old pattern and that imagined future will never turn into a reality.

31. They appreciate how much you have grown.

Feeling Strength: 3/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 3/5

If you followed the advice on this website, then you know you should work on your own growth and self improvement before trying to get your ex back. The no contact period is essentially designed to help you heal from the breakup and grow as a person. To help you become You version 2.0.

When you contact your ex after the breakup, and follow the plan, your ex will eventually notice these changes in you. If they do, then there is a good chance they are finding themselves attracted to you and that they will start thinking about getting back together.

Note: I have noticed that internal changes and growth work a lot better than external changes. For example, if you learn to be more mature and confident, you will have a much better chance of your ex noticing and appreciating than if you say, become leaner or get a haircut.

32. They want to learn and grow too.

Feeling Strength: 1/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 4/5

If your ex wants to learn and grow in their life, it doesn’t really say much about the feelings they have for you. If they decide to make changes in their life because of this breakup, then there is a good chance you were very important to them and the breakup was very painful for them.
growth mindset vs fixed mindset

If your ex is actively trying to learn from their mistakes and work on their self-improvement, then you have a pretty decent chance of getting back together. Two individuals who both want to grow and work on self improvement make a lovely couple. You both may just be that couple.

33. They ask about getting back together

Feeling Strength: 5/5

Does This Improve Your Reconciliation Chances: 5/5

This is it folks. This point may feel obvious but it seems like a fitting end to this article. If your ex tells you they want to get back together or if they agree to getting back together after you ask them about it, then I want to congratulate you on your new relationship.

But I also want to warn you. A lot of couples who get back together, breakup again shortly after the reconciliation. And they do it because they never learn from their mistakes and don’t build a strong foundation to their new relationship.

If you and your ex are getting back together, focus on being honest, vulnerable and communicating properly. Take things slow and make sure that you don’t jump into the same old patterns of your previous relationship. Hopefully, this time, your relationship with your ex will be permanent, which incidentally, is also the name of this website.

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    Adam

    My ex just unblocked me and followed me on Instagram. She has a boyfriend who have been together since the breakup which is going on a year now. Should I contact her? Ignore it? Wait?

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    • Kevin
      Kevin

      Wait for a couple week before contacting her. Read these articles before you contact her.
      https://exbackpermanently.com/win-your-ex-girlfriend-back/
      https://exbackpermanently.com/get-ex-girlfriend-back-if-she-has-new-boyfriend/

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    Uglješa

    Can I somehow send you e mail Kevin? I have a lot of questions...

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    MegxNath4life

    Me and my ex dated for 2 years. I broke up with him cause he was bullying people around me and trying to act cool. I was upset and ashamed to be his girlfriend so I broke up with him and dated someone else 4 months later. He begged me to be his girlfriend again and for me break up with my BF. I told him no. He still likes me till this day and is always trying to hold my hand or kiss me which I hate. My boyfriend hates him and that he always tries to call me pet names and date me. Etc. You may be asking why I read this then. It was because I was just curious...that’s all thanks!

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    theresa

    Me and my ex bf were in relationship for 4yrs everything was fine with some fights and the end things get use to fall on right place.but all started when some other girl started to come close to him,although my ex told me about this,i didnt react much.Than this girl proposed my ex and he refused saying i am commited to my gf and that girl blocked him from everywhere.now my bf started to ignore me and saying things like i want my space time etc.just 1week before my breakup he consoled me that i want to be with u and next week he said i love that girl and i dnt want to be with u.i shatterd broke and begged pleaded him for months.did everything execpt no contact and everything backfired and he attracted more towards tht other girl.now its been 18days we are not in contact.last time when we met we decided we are not going to be in touch and i guess he is also following the rule of no contact.

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