When she asked what do you want to know about your love life, I said “Is he cheating on me?” with no hesitation.
The psychic closed her eyes, took a deep breath and when she opened her eyes, she had sympathy in her eyes. She said yes, your boyfriend is cheating on you. But there is more to it. You didn’t show up for him when he needed you. You have constantly blocked his access to a part of you that he needs to connect with you. And the reason is because your heart chakra is blocked. You need to open it up.
Her words gave me a lot of anxiety. Not the heart chakra being blocked. I don’t think I cared about that at all. The part about my ex cheating on me and me not being there for him when he needed me. But at the same time, I felt kind of relieved. As if something that I always expected to happen had finally happened. Like a part of me that believed that she was cheating finally proved right. That part of me was kind of saying the other part of me that loved my boyfriend and wanted to trust him … “I told you so”.
The funny thing is that I’ve been to many psychics before and all of them always said my boyfriend was faithful. But this one psychic was more accurate about my personality and my partner’s personality than anyone else. The only thing she got wrong was how we both met. She said we met at work but we actually met through a friend.
I always left those other psychics with scepticism. But with this psychic, I was really sure she was right even though she got something wrong. At least, I was sure she was right about my boyfriend cheating on me.
Funny enough, when she offered to unblock my heart chakra, I declined immediately because I know that I love from all my heart. What is there to unblock? It was my boyfriend whose Chakra needed to get unblocked.
So I went home, confronted my boyfriend and told him exactly what happened at the psychic. He obviously denied all accusations and called the psychic a psycho. I was determined though, I needed to get to the root of this so I finally convinced him to let me go through his messages. And lo and behold, he was speaking to a girl.
While there was nothing in there that would incriminate him for cheating on me physically, I found something much worse. He reached out to her after one of our fights, just to “talk”. He said he needed to “talk to someone about the mess”.
That was more than enough evidence for me (and as I write this, I am fully aware of how crazy I was) and I just blew a fuse. I accused him of cheating and asked him to confess everything right now. He said there is nothing to confess, whatever is there, is all there is. He reached out because that fight was a mess and he had no one to talk to. He couldn’t talk to his guy friends and she was the only one who would listen.
I didn’t believe him. I packed my bags and left.
Now, if you are reading this, I promise I am not a crazy person. Well, at least not anymore. I was full of insecurities because every man my mother was with cheated on her. And I always said to myself that I would find a man who is faithful to me, but those insecurities were always there inside me. No matter how much I tried to act cool on the outside, these insecurities would eventually show up in the form of a petty argument or a full blown fight like this one.
And my boyfriend had always been too good to me. When things are good between us, they are really good. But when things go bad, it feels like the world is ending. And yes, a lot of it was me because of the way I fight. But it was also because of him.
After being apart for a few days, my anger calmed down and I really thought about everything. I spoke to one of my wisest friends and she told me to ask myself why would I always ask the psychic if my boyfriend is cheating?
Was I trying to manifest it?
Why couldn’t I trust him? Is it because of his actions or is it because of my insecurities?
There were a lot of other issues in our relationship, but my boyfriend had almost always shown the willingness to work it out. Even after my ridiculous display of psychic induced hysteria, he still texted me and said he wants to talk when I have calmed down.
Eventually, I really took some time to think about what that psychic said. She said I didn’t show up for my boyfriend when he needed me. And perhaps she is talking about that fight when he reached out to that girl. And perhaps my heart chakra was really blocked because I was letting these petty insecurities get between me and my boyfriend.
I eventually got the chakra unblocking done from the psychic (which I won’t go into detail because maybe it was just smoke and mirrors. But it helped momentarily). But what really helped was going to therapy and unpacking all my past trauma which was causing the insecurities.
So yes, my psychic was partially right in a lot of ways. I didn’t show up for my partner when I needed to. A part of me was not allowing me to trust him completely. But he never cheated on me. At least, not in a “seeking romantic or sexual connection outside the relationship” way.
Now whether or not she really had psychic powers is up for debate, I can confidently say that particular psychic reading helped change my life better, if only by making me face my insecurities that were always screaming at the back of my mind.
I guess they are right when they say, “A psychic only tells you what you want to hear”, but in my case, it wasn’t something I wanted to hear, it was what my childhood insecurities wanted to hear. And when they heard it, it really helped me face those insecurities and heal them the right way.
I am still with that boyfriend years later. And while I no longer fear that he will cheat on me, I eagerly wait for him to propose. I still occasionally go to psychics but my main question is usually, “will we get married?” and the answer is always yes.
(Note – The above experience was provided by one of our readers; the advice below is written by Kevin, a breakup expert)
Can a psychic tell if my partner is cheating on me?
No, psychics simply can not read minds. They can not find out if someone is cheating on someone. They can only take a guess using their instincts. And sometimes, those guesses are right. But it’s still just a guess.
I am not saying Psychics can’t be helpful. In the experience provided above by an anonymous reader, the psychic reading clearly helped her face her issues and insecurities. And while initially it led to a fight with her boyfriend, it made them stronger.
What happened above was the psychic used her intuition (or cold reading) to understand the insecurities of her client and then tell her what the psychic thought she needed to hear. Perhaps the psychic really believed that the spirits wanted her to say those things. But that’s up to you to decide.
The point of all this is that if you feel your partner is cheating on you, then the best thing you can do is just ask your partner. Communicate. That’s all, just ask your partner instead of asking a psychic.
And if your gut instinct is telling you that your partner is lying, then explore that feeling.
Ask yourself why you feel this way. Did your partner do something to make you suspicious?
OR is it coming from a much deeper insecurity?
In the case of the above story, speaking about her feelings with her partner and exploring her feelings further, led her to finally come to terms with her insecurities. Luckily, her partner stuck to her even though she was being unreasonable and broke up with her because of a psychic. But that may not always be the case as most people do not like to put up with such behavior.
So if you feel like asking a psychic about your partner cheating on you, ask yourself first why you feel the need to do so? Is your partner withdrawing? Do they just need some space?
Remember, honesty and communication is the foundation of all healthy relationships. And if your aim is to have a healthy relationship with your partner, then communicate with them and try to be honest with yourself.
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