So, you are confused if a guy likes you. You may have met him in your school, college, gym, or at workplace. You may have never spoken to him or you may have only spoken to him in a group or work environment.
If you are wondering if he likes you, you can easily tell this by his body language, the way he acts and the way he reacts to certain things. In this article, I am going to list out 14 signs that will tell you if he likes you. At the end of this article, I’ll also teach you 3 things that you can do that will confirm if he is into you.
Look at his body language.
Our body language says things we don’t say. Ever notice how some people give off a “Happy Vibe” and some people just seem “closed off”? The vibe is usually just our mind interpreting their body language.
In fact, a study showed that only 7% of communication is verbal. The rest is non-verbal. So what body language signs should you look out for?
Body language signs that he is into you.
1. He smiles at you.
There is a different type of smile for friends and a different type of smile for someone you are interested in. If his face lights up whenever he sees you, there’s a good chance he likes you.
But if his face lights up the same way when he sees a friend, then the smile is probably friendly.
You need to be able to distinguish the difference between his smiles. If he is really into you, his smile will show it.
2. He mimics your actions
One way to find out if someone likes you is to look at their actions. Suppose you are sitting across table and you are sitting with your legs crossed. Does he also sit with his legs crossed?
Suppose you scratched your cheeks or adjusted your hair. Does he do the same thing?
It’s a simple thing but it often gets unnoticed when you are interacting with someone. When someone is doing it, you will automatically start feeling comfortable with them. A lot of guys do it without knowing when they like someone. So, if you notice him doing this stuff, there is good chance he likes you.
3. Eye Contact: The doorway to his soul
A lot of guys might be shy to do this, so it might not be for everyone. But if the guy is confident, he will make eye contact with you. He will make eye contact and maintain eye contact while speaking with you. He might even maintain eye contact while he is not even speaking to you.
Tip: If he is making eye contact and you want to show him you like him too, maintain eye contact for 3 seconds, smile, then look away. Wait for 5 seconds and look back again. If he is still looking at you, smile again and look away again. This will most likely give him a signal to come talk to you.
4. Notice the way he stands
A lot of guys will stand or sit facing you when they are interested in you. When he is standing, notice his feet. Are they pointed towards you? Then this probably mean he likes you. This is especially true if you are in a group and everyone is speaking with each other. But he still chose to stand facing you.
5. He gets touchy feely
A lot of guys will find any excuse to touch you. If he is looking for excuses to touch you, then there’s a good chance he likes you.
These touches can be things like, holding your hand while crossing a road. Touching your back to guide you, wiping something from your face or body.
A lot of guys will even play games just to get you to touch them. For example, they may claim that they know how to read palms and ask you to put your hand on theirs. Sometimes, they will ask you to see whose hand is bigger just to get you to touch their hand.
Body Language Signs He is NOT into you
There are also some signs that mean he is not into you.
a) He rarely smiles.
If his face is not lighting up when he sees you, there’s a good chance he does not like you.
b) He crosses his hands while speaking to you
Crossing hands shows disinterest. If he is crossing his hands while interacting with you, it means he is not interested.
c) He avoids eye contact
If he avoids eye contact, it means he is either shy or he is not into you. We will get into details of a shy guy later. But if he seems confident and he avoids eye contact, then it probably means he does not like you.
d) His body seems closed
Apart from him crossing his hands, there are other signs that may show that he is not interested in you. In general, you will get a vibe from him that he is “closed off”. For example, he may be sitting across you with half his body turned to the side and one hand behind the chair.
Body language Signs that a Shy Guy is into you
Things change a bit if the guy is shy. In a lot of cases, shy guys or socially awkward guys don’t really know how to be confident. They are scared of making the wrong move and end up doing a lot of things that would otherwise indicate that they are not into you. Luckily, here are a few signs that will show if a shy guy is into you.
6. He gets nervous around you
You can look for signs that he is nervous. He may scratch the back of his head or bite his nails. He may also do something peculiar to him that he usually does when he is nervous.
Note: If he seems nervous, hold his hand. It will calm him down and give him a little confidence to open up.
7. He avoids eye contact.
A lot of time, if a shy guy is looking it at you, he will turn his gaze away as soon as you look at him back. He will try to act like he was not looking at you. This is different from a guy who is not interested in you because a shy guy will be doing it out of fear. And you can easily tell that he is trying to not make you uncomfortable. Whereas a guy who is not interested in you will just avoid looking at you altogether.
His Actions That Say That He Likes You
Apart from body language, which is often subconscious, you can also figure out if he likes you by his actions. A lot of these signs are obvious, but girls often miss them. So, let’s get into it.
8. He Goes Out of His Way to hang out with you
If a guy likes you, he will go out of his way to meet you. He will find out what you are doing and make plans according to you.
It may be that he hangs out in the same area where he knows you will hang out. It may be a café or a park. He may start taking the same classes as you in school or he may take the same work shift as you so he can spend more time with you.
9. He speaks about you to his friends
A lot of time, guys will speak about the girl they like to their friends. They will say things like, “She is so cool” or “She is really hot.”
You can tell this when you speak to his friends. If they know something about you that you have not already told them, then this is a great sign that he is into you. For example, you may show up at a party and they will be expecting you.
Or one of his friend might already know what drink you like. Or whether you like cats or dogs.
10. He compliments you
Guys are not really that good at complimenting friends. If he is complimenting you, that means he likes you. Compliments can also be very simple and don’t really have to be about your beauty or how smart you are. For example,
“I really have a good time with you.”
“You looked so cool while dancing.”
But if the compliment is about something specific and he compliments how good you look, then there is a very good chance he likes you. For example, compliments like
“You look beautiful in that dress.”
“Your look cute when you laugh like that.”
11. He notices little things
Guys don’t care about the little things. You know things like a new set of earrings, or if you are wearing your hair differently. But if he is noticing these little things about you, there’s a very good chance he likes you.
12. He Listens to You and tries to understand
If a guy likes you, he will listen to what you are saying. When I say listen, I mean really listen. That means he will listen to your stories from work, he will listen to your opinion about your friends or coworkers and he will listen when you complain about something that’s bothering you.
If you want to find out if he likes you, ask him something you spoke about last week and see if he remembers. If he does, that means he pays attention. And he probably wouldn’t pay you attention if he didn’t like you.
13. He is not always on his phone around you.
Sure, if you play some mobile game together, he may be on the phone. Or if you both like to check Instagram and talk about it, he may use his phone around you. Basically, if you are both using the phone together to do something fun, it does not mean he is not into you.
But if he is using his phone to disconnect from you and just go into his own little phone world, while you are sitting with him and trying to connect with him; then it means he is not into you.
14. He texts you when he is happy or sad
We all text each other all the time, but if a guy remembers you whenever he is happy or sad, there’s a good chance he likes you. When you are at either end of the happiness spectrum, you tend to remember the people you like and you want to be with.
His Reactions to The Things You Do
You can often find out if a guy likes you as more than just a friend if he reacts to certain things that you do. All you have to do is do these things and see how he reacts to find out how much he is into you.
15. He will be jealous when you hint there is another guy
For this, you need to be very subtle. If you overdo it, you might ruin your relationship with this guy. But in a lot of cases, knowing that there is another guy in the picture is all the push a guy needs to make a move.
To see his reaction, just tell him about another guy you met. Say something like,
“There is this guy in the class who wanted to hang out with me. My girlfriends think he is very cute.”
You don’t want to tell him directly that you like the guy. You just want to insinuate that a good-looking guy is into you. If he likes you he will do one of the following things.
- Get Angry
- Shut down and it may look like something is bothering him
- Ask you a lot of questions about the other guy
- Ask to see a picture of that guy
- Ask you if you like him in non-friendly way’
- Try to make you jealous
If he is not into you, he may do one of the following
- Give you advice on what to do on the date
- Make fun of you like a friend would
- Treat it like normal conversation as if it’s nothing special.
16. He tries to protect you from the evils in the world
If a guy really likes you, then he will try to protect you from danger or any bad things in the world. I am not saying he will go into battle for you. Or get into a fist fight with a hooligan. But he will do his best to keep you safe from little things that may cause you harm.
To do this, you should figure out something that you know may harm you. And speak to him about it.
“There is one guy at work who creeps me out. I think he is stalking me.”
Now any decent person will be concerned for your safety if you say something like that. But if a guy is into you, his reaction is going to be a little more than that.
He will get very concerned about your safety. He will ask you questions. He will offer to help. And he might even look worried about you. He may even call you the next day to know if you reached home safely.
17. He tries to fix things in your life
This will only be the case if a guy really really likes you. And he sees you as a long term partner. He will try fix the problems in your life as if they are his own. He will offer solutions and he will invest a lot of mental energy trying to find a solution for them.
To do this, simply talk to him about a problem you have in your life. Make sure it’s not a general problem. It should be something personal and something that you would only share with someone you can trust.
“My sister and my mom are fighting every day, and it makes it hard to study. I can’t concentrate when they are shouting at the top of their lungs. I am scared I won’t pass the exams because of this and won’t get into a good school.”
If your ex is into you, he will offer a solution to your problems. His mind will start running super fast trying to find the best solution. He will see damsel in distress and if he is into you, he will want to be your knight in shining armor.
What to do if he is likes you?
If a guy likes you, you need to let him know that you like him as well. A lot of shy guys are scared to make the first move. So, if you think he likes you, go up to him and ask him out. Say something like, “Hey, want to go for coffee after work/school?”
On the date, hold his hand. That’s the best signal to let him know that you like him too. And if he is still oblivious, well congratulation, you have managed to find the most socially clueless guy on the plant and you should comment below and tell me all about him. We will give you an internet trophy.
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