The 5 Conversations You Need to Have With Your Ex To Get Them Back Permanently
"What can I say to my ex to get them back?"
It’s a simple question. And I have been asked this question at least a thousand times before by my readers and clients from all over the world.
Do you know why this question is so common?
Our brain is constantly trying to figure out a solution to the breakup pain. Our brain wants a simple answer to the problem it's currently facing. And if they can just figure out some sort of "magic words" to make their ex come back, they can solve this problem and live happily again.
Usually, I would just ignore such questions and think of them as one of the many desperate questions that the mind asks. Questions like,
“What if my ex moves on?”
“Does my ex still love me?”
“How can I get my ex to beg me back?”
But one day, one of my clients asked me the same question in a different way that made me think differently. My client asked me.
“Are there certain words, said in a certain order, at a certain time that will make my ex want to be with me again?”
It's the same question worded differently. But it triggered something in my mind. After all, every one of my client that got back together with their ex said something to their ex at a certain time that made them want to get back together.
What if there are words, said in a certain order, at a certain time that will make your ex want you again?
What if these words can
My clients were saying and doing things in a certain order at a certain time that made their ex want to be with them and stay in a long lasting relationships.
I went on a quest to find those words and the order of those words.
No, I did not go to the Himalayas and met the secret Monks in Timbuktu who knew the secret to human mind and desire. No, I did not serve them for 3 years until they revealed the secret to me.
That would have made a good story, but it’s not true.
The truth is, my journey started with my library and ended up in front of my computer screen.
You see, Ryan and I have been working on clients from all over the world. We personally speak with hundreds of heartbroken people every month and go through their situation. We help them figure out what to do and what to say to their ex to get them back.
My journey included a lot of books on psychology and going through thousands of case studies of my coaching clients.
Eventually, my quest to find the perfect words in the perfect order came to an end. I did find a solution. But it was not magic. It was not too good to be true. It was simple, but it was not easy.
Here's What I discovered.
1. It’s not just about what comes out of your mouth.
Suppose I tell you these perfect set of words, specifically tailored for your situation, and we both figure out the perfect time for you to say these words to your ex.
But did you know that our communication is 80% non-verbal. Even if the words that come out of your mouth are perfect, your body may be saying something else entirely.
Considering that your ex knows you too well, they will be able to read your body language, your tone, your eyes and everything else in between with expertise. So even if you say the perfect words from your mouth, your ex is probably hearing something completely different if your body is not saying the same thing.
2. It’s not just about what you say, it’s also about what you ask?
Questions are as important as sentences. In a lot of cases, they can say more about how you feel, and they can either portray you as someone confident or as someone needy.
Look at these two questions for example,
“How can you not love me anymore?”
“What can we do to not repeat the same mistakes again?”
The first question is something that a needy person will ask. Someone who is dependent on their partner for validation.
While the second question is something that a calm and confident person will ask. Someone who does not want to repeat the same mistakes again.
3. Not Speaking Can Sometimes Say More Than Saying It. aka Timing is important.
A lot of times, you need to keep your mouth shut and your hands of the texting app to convey the right message. By saying anything at all at the wrong time, you are actually saying the wrong thing. Timing is important when you are trying to get your ex back.
4. It’s not just about what you say and ask your ex, it’s also about what you say and ask yourself.
This is a hard concept to grasp for most of my readers and clients. But it’s important. Suppose you keep telling yourself things like,
“I can’t live without my ex.”
“I will never be able to get over him.”
“What if I never find anyone who loves me?”
If you keep saying stuff like that to yourself, you are just reinforcing the neediness and desperation in your mind and thoughts. And that neediness and desperation is going to push your ex away.
Instead, if you say the right things to yourself and ask yourself the right questions, you will reinforce confidence and maturity in your mind. For example,
“I will get through this.”
“Even if I don’t get my ex back, I will be fine.”
“What can I do to avoid making the same mistakes again?”
Saying the right things and asking the right questions to yourself is as important as saying the right thing to your ex. Because ultimately what you say to yourself will show up in your body language, in your tone, in your face, and in your actions. And that will eventually reach your ex through non-verbal communication.
5. It’s not just one thing you need to say to your ex. It’s actually FIVE CONVERSATIONS, in a certain order over a certain period of time.
Here’s the actual discovery of my research. It’s not just one thing that you need to say to your ex. There are no magical words that by themselves will convince your ex to come back.
But having these FIVE ESSENTIAL CONVERSATIONS, in a certain order, over a period of time can skyrocket your chances of getting your ex back.
The 5 Conversations To Get Your Ex Back and Keep Them Permanently
I discovered that there are 5 essential conversations that most people have with an ex over a period of time that makes them get back in a healthy relationship with their ex.
These conversations are not a cookie cutter solution for all relationships. They are unique to every relationship and every situation. But these 5 Essential conversations follow the same basic outline in almost all the cases.
It's not a magical solution. It's more than just "no contact". It's not manipulation. And it's not a trick.
When I speak about these five conversations, it almost sounds like a magic trick. And I want to be very clear about this. It's not a magical solution. It's not manipulation. These are real conversations that naturally happen over time when both you and your ex are dedicated to getting back in a healthy relationship.
The problem is that most people don't know how to have these conversations. In most cases, people actually try to avoid having these conversations. And when it's time to have these conversations, they screw it up because they are not prepared for it.
But if you know how to have these conversations, you will excel at every step of getting your ex back. Your ex will be amazed by the confidence and understanding you show whenever it's time to have these conversations.
Note: In some cases, it may feel like things are not progressing with your ex. That happens because you are avoiding having one of these conversation with your ex.
Think about it. Wasn't it the long and meaningful conversations that made you fall in love with each other in the first place?
Doesn't it make sense that you need to have some meaningful conversations to get them back?
If you know exactly how to have those conversations with your ex, you will skyrocket your chances of getting them back.
When I analyzed the cases of my clients, it was crystal clear what worked and what didn't.
No contact and self-improvement is a huge part of the picture. Yes, you need to get some space and you need to work on becoming a better version of yourself.
But no contact alone does not get you your ex back.
I found a key difference in clients who got their ex back in a healthy relationship and clients who didn't.
The difference was the ability to have these real meaningful conversations with their ex. For the clients who got their ex back, it came naturally. The self-improvement work they had done was enough for them to have these conversations.
But some clients had no clue how to have these conversations. Sure they also worked on becoming a better version of themselves. But they were still unprepared to have these conversations with their ex. And as a result, their ex went from being interested to indifferent.
How Can My Clients Get Better Results?
To get better results for my clients I had to figure out how I can help them have these meaningful conversations with their ex. I realized there are three crucial things that determines their success.
Understanding the Timing
Learning The Basics of These Conversations
Self-Improvement is a huge part of the process, but it's not just about going to the gym or feeling good about yourself. If you want your ex back, you need to do more than that. You need self-improvement that is most effective in getting your ex back. You need to dig deeper, figure out the root cause of the breakup and fix that. And you need to learn how to communicate in a way that is effective in getting your ex back.
Understanding the Timing is also very important. The clients who used these conversations to get their ex back understood when to have these meaningful conversations with their ex. If you don't understand the timing, you may screw up your chances by trying to have this conversation when your ex isn't ready. Or even worse, you may try to have this conversation when you are not ready.
Lastly, I needed to help my clients understand the BASICS OF THESE CONVERSATIONS. What is the purpose of each conversation? How do you start it with an ex? How do you respond if your ex reacts negatively?
Sure I can give them examples, but real conversations don't always follow the same template. No matter how many examples I give, my clients need to be confident in themselves when they are having these conversation with their ex. If they are just following a template, these conversations will not have the same impact.
What Are These Conversations?
Each one of these conversations has a specific purpose.
How Can You Learn This?
It's not possible for me to teach this one on one to every one. I charge $400/month to my email coaching clients. And my slots are very limited.
The best way for me to teach this to my readers is to give them a comprehensive plan to follow. If you've read any of my articles here at Ex Back Permanently, you know I write detailed plans that are easy to follow.
But these Conversations and the self-improvement work needed to have these conversations with your ex needs a lot more detail than what I have written here at Ex Back Permanently.
I wanted to make a one stop solution that gives you everything you need to heal from the breakup, grow as a person, become confident and learn how to have these conversations with your ex.
I wanted to include guidelines on how and when to have these conversations for EVERY BREAKUP SITUATION.
I wanted to give you tools that you can use to heal from the breakup and do the type of self-improvement that is most effective in getting an ex back.
I realized that the best way to do that is an online course.
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About Kevin Thompson
The founder and the mastermind behind Ex Back Permanently. If you've read his articles on the website, you know he doesn't beat around the bush. He is determined to give men and women around the world the tools they need to deal with breakup and build the relationships they deserve.
It works for almost every situation out there.
After being in the field for 10 years, I've seen pretty much every situation that is out there. Trust me, no matter how bad your situation might be, THERE'S A GOOD CHANCE THIS WILL WORK FOR YOU.
Here are some of the most common situations in which my customers found success using the Ex Back Permanently Advanced System
it takes the guess work away
The Ex Back Permanently Advanced System is designed to take the guess work away from getting your ex back. There is a good chance you will encounter a range of situations and emotions as you move forward in trying to win your ex back. But if you are confident in yourself, you will be able to face every situation and come out stronger and more confident than before.
The EBP Advanced System gives you the tools that you can use to fix every situation, even the ones not mentioned above. It's able to do that because it's built around CORE RELATIONSHIP PSYCHOLOGY.
Once you learn the basics of these five essential conversations, you will be able to use them in your situation to attract your ex back and connect with them in a way they have never experienced before.
How does it compare to all the other ex back products?
It's a valid question and I am glad you asked. You are investing your time, trust and money into us and we want you to be sure that you are satisfied with your investment.
Here's a glimpse of what you will find in almost all the "Ex Back Products" out there
Do No Contact ----> Reach Out To them Casually ----> Flirt a bit ----> Play hard to get ----> Make your ex jealous
As you can imagine, that's not a healthy way to get back together. Most gurus have no idea how to have these essential conversations with an ex. All they know about is "No Contact Rule". And they just repackage the No Contact Rule in an ebook and sell it with clever marketing.
The EBP Advanced System is much much more than that. Not only it's the only product out there that teaches you these five essential conversation; it's also the only product that teaches you how to heal and grow effectively during no contact so you are ready for these conversation.
In addition, the bonus courses (The Better Communication Course and The Overcoming Anxiety Course) teach you some very important life skills that will help you in all your future relationships. It's not just some fluff material that most gurus try to sell as bonuses.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why should I pay money for this information?
The EBP Advanced System is our flagship product. It's for those who don't want to take any risk moving forward and want to commit to making their relationship with their ex work.
Compared to all the free information out there, the EBP Advanced System is different because
1. It provides you structure and tells you exactly what to do every day from now.
2. It gives you the tools that most free information and paid products just glance over.
For example, they will tell you to be confident. But no one tells you how to be confident. They tell you to have a good vibe, but no one tells you how to do that.
We don't leave anything to chance. We take your hand and guide you through everything that you need to go through to get your ex back and keep her.
3. It gives 10 years and thousands of breakup experience in your hand. The EBP Advanced System is designed by me for people who are serious about turning this breakup around. You won't find something like this anywhere else.
4. Bad advice can be dangerous. If you make the wrong move, you might end up losing your ex forever. If you want to be sure you are doing the right things, I highly recommend you invest in this.
5. It teaches you the five essential conversations that you need to have with your ex to get back in a healthy relationship.
Should I wait until No Contact is Over?
If you are reading this, I highly recommend you purchase the EBP Advanced System right now. The first two conversations happen before and immediately after no contact.
And you may need to have the 3rd or 4th conversation immediately after no contact (depending on your situation.)
The point is, it's better to be prepared for all the five conversations rather than just wing it. So no matter where you are in your journey to get your ex back, I recommend you purchase the product today and try to go through it as soon as possible.
I am still not sure if it will work for my situation
We provide a 60 days money back guarantee. If the program doesn't work for you, you can ask us for a full refund within 60 days.
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We accept all major debit cards. You can also use an international debit card or Paypal to make the purchase. If you select Paypal at the time of checkout, it will show you all the options you have for making the payment in your country.
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I cheated on my ex. Will it still work?
Yes, The EBP Advanced System has a section called "Special Cases" which explains how to use the EBP Advanced Course in special cases such as rebound relationships, marriage, children, long distance, and infidelity.
How can I know you will honor your refund policy?
If you are not satisfied, then it is our duty to refund you. We have a lot more to lose if we don't honor our words. OUR REPUTATION.
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If you still have a problem trusting us, we recommend you use Paypal at the time of checkout. With Paypal, you can easily file a claim if we don't honor our words.
How do I access the contents after purchase?
The EBP Advanced Course is an online course. Once you purchase the product, you will be given login information that you can use to access the portal. Inside, you will find the contents organized in modules and topics.
You will also be susbcribed to the Advanced Healing Worksheets which will then be delivered to your email for the next 30 days.
Online course is the easiest way to digest the content without making it overwhelming. It's not an ebook and it's not a physical book.
Why don't you have a "simple trick" I can use to get my ex back permanently?
I know there are a lot of "Gurus" who claim to have "one simple trick" that will make your ex come running back. If you want, you can go buy their products. But I guarantee you, the one simple trick they have is called no contact rule. You don't have to pay anything for that.
The EBP Advanced System is more than a trick. It's a system you can use to get your ex back in a relationship most people only dream of.
My situation is different. Will it work for me?
Yes, the EBP Advanced system is designed to fit in all the situation. It's not a one size fit all approach. In fact, there are different type of no contact and different type of approaches for Conversation 1, 2 and 3. You can choose the best type of no contact and approach for your situation.
The course explains in detail which approach is best suited for which situation. It also includes quizzes and self-assessment tools to help you figure out which approach you should take.
My Ex is in a Rebound. Will it work?
Yes, The EBP Advanced System has a section called "Special Cases" which explains how to use the EBP Advanced Course in special cases such as rebound relationships, marriage, children, long distance, and infidelity.
P.S: If you are still on the fence about purchasing this, I want to remind you that this product comes with a 60 days refund policy. You have nothing to lose. If it doesn't work for you, simply contact us and ask for a refund.
PPS: It's good to be skeptical about purchasing things online. But I highly recommend you get this as soon as possible. If you want your ex back, there is a good chance you will have to have one of the five essential conversations with your ex sooner or later.
What if your ex calls you tomorrow and they want to talk about what went wrong in the relationship? Would you be able to handle that conversation with confidence? A lot of people screw up these conversations because they don't know how to have them. The EBP Advanced system teaches you the basics of these conversations and gives you detailed examples that you can use for your situation.
Even if you are sure your ex will not call you out of the blue, you still need to learn about these conversation. In some cases, you may need to reach out to your ex and have Conversation 1 or Conversation 2. If you don't, then your ex may just assume that you have moved on and they will move on from you as well.
My point is, if you want your ex back, you should know about these conversations and how to have them. And with a 60 days refund guarantee, you have absolutely nothing to lose. Click below to get started.